Pastor James Maina Ng’ang’a, minister of Neno Evangelism, has expressed strong opposition to males who enter into ‘come we stay’ marriages without satisfying the cultural obligation of paying dowry.
Ng’ang’a lectured about the implications of such couplings in a video published by SASA TV on TikTok, emphasizing that they frequently result in children who confront hardships.
“Mnazaa tu vituko. Hamtaki kutoa mahari ya huyo msichana. You don’t like to give dowry na mnakuja kusema Bwana asifiwe.
“You give birth to children who are not okay because you refused to pay dowry for the mother of your children. You don’t like to pay dowry yet you come to church and say ‘praise God’,” Ng’ang’a said.
Individuals living in such partnerships, he added, are “deceivers” with the personality of empty bags.
According to Ng’ang’a, come-we-stay relationships typically include a female abandoning her studies to join a guy who has abandoned his family, resulting in the birth of wayward offspring.
The pastor said that such consequences are the result of a lack of adequate religious practice, noting that these parents do not attend church services.
Ng’ang’a went so far as to quote the Bible, citing the example of Jacob, who worked hard for fourteen years to complete the conditions of marrying his wives Leah and Rachel.
“Hakuna mahali Yakobo alichukua watoto wa Laban free. Alifanya kazi fourteen years. Na ni Yakobo wacha wewe Kamau na Onyango,” Ng’ang’a said.
He concluded by stating that he would never accept to share the same fate with sinners.