Judy Nyawira, the wife of film director Abel Mutua, has shared one of her significant lessons through her over 10 years marriage.
Speaking with Nation Lifestyle, Judy discussed her bad childhood experience, explaining why she always avoid her in-laws.
Reflecting on her parents’ relationship, Judy shared how the n-laws took over everything her dad left following his death.
“My father died in 2002, and that was my most painful experience growing up. He hadn’t written a will, and his family turned against us. Everything my mum had built with my dad was in his name, and when he died the in-laws took everything.” she said.
Adding:
“Now that I am married, I strive to stay away from my in-laws. We have a very cordial relationship, but I try to keep a distance because of that experience.”
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On the challenges of raising a teen daughter, Judy stated that she openly discusses sex matters with Mumbu since when she was young.
“My husband and I started discussing sex matters with our teenage daughter Mumbu when she was very young. Unlike most of our parents, Abel and I never used euphemisms when mentioning private parts to Mumbu. We called them by their names. We called it vagina and not ‘susu’ or any other name.”
“Now that she is 14 she is very comfortable with these conversations.”
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Judy Nyawira’s relationship with house help
How long can you work with the same nanny?
For Judy Nyawira, she has had the same house manager for 12 years and ounting.
“I have had the same nanny, Flo, for 12 years. She came in when Mumbu was two years old. When I count my blessings, I count Flo twice.”
Judy Nyawira’s Lessons on marriage
According to her, marriage as an institution comes with its own challenges. She describes it as a beautiful thing, but one of the hardest things in life.
“Maintaining a spark in my marriage over all these years hasn’t been easy. Marriage isn’t for the faint-hearted. It’s the most beautiful thing but it’s also one of the hardest things you could ever do.”
How has she been coping with the challenges?
Judy admits that love in marriage fades as time goes. This is where cultivating friendship wth your spouse comes in.
“During the dating phase, there is usually too much love, but over time it fades. To maintain that spark, I have been leaning more towards friendship because there are days the husband–wife thing doesn’t work at all.”
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Judy Nyawira’s personal birth control choices
Judy also opened up about her approach to birth control. When asked about her current method, she revealed that she currently does not use any traditional methods.
“I am not on any family planning method,” she clarified, prompting curiosity from her audience.
Explaining further, Judy said, “We were told our method can’t be classified as a family planning method. We’ve become very good at, you know, withdrawing, like how you withdraw money from M-Pesa,” she said with a laugh.
“I tried using an implant for three years, but it didn’t work for me. I was bleeding for three-quarters of the month, which was not good,” she shared about her experience with different birth control methods.
“At some point, I also tried the coil. I had a lot of discomfort, so we removed it. So, ladies and gentlemen, we are sticking with the withdrawal method… You go to M-Pesa and tell them you want to do what? To withdraw!” Judy humorously concluded.
